Heather Barker
Registered Psychotherapist (Qualifying),
Sex Therapist | Mindfulness Practitioner
Individual + Couples Therapy | Accepting New Clients | VirtualOnly
If there’s something about sex, desire, or intimacy you’ve never quite felt safe saying out loud — to a partner, to a therapist, to yourself — you’re probably in the right place. I’m a Sex Therapist and Mindfulness Practitioner with a background in neurodivergence, and I specialize in the parts of intimacy and identity that most people learn to keep quiet. So let me say this first: breathe. You are not alone.
Maybe you’ve noticed you can’t quite move through life with any fluidity. Maybe you look around at the people closest to you and still feel alone in your own thoughts and feelings. Maybe somewhere along the way you gave up on who you are — or quietly decided some part of you wasn’t allowed. That’s okay. We can meander through the coulds and shoulds, the feelings and the thoughts, until you feel actually seen — as an individual, or as an individual within a couple.
My approach is deeply relational and, honestly, nurturing by design. We all see the world through a different lens, so rather than hand you a one-size-fits-all method, we build a mutual map together — drawing, with an ebb and flow, from Cognitive Behavioural Therapy, Dialectical Behaviour Therapy, Strength-Based Theory, and Internal Family Systems, alongside the tools of mindfulness and somatic practice.
What stays constant underneath all of it is one belief: that shame loses its grip the moment something gets spoken in a room where it’s met with care instead of flinching. Sex and intimacy are where much of my work lives, and that focus has shaped how I see everything else. Because what people bring in about desire, closeness, or their bodies is rarely only about sex. It’s about safety.
The people I work with are often:
Carrying questions or longings they’ve never said out loud, unsure they’d be met with anything but judgement. Navigating intimacy blocks, mismatched desire, or relationship wounds they can explain but can’t seem to soften. Feeling alone in their own heads, even surrounded by people. Tired of pretending a part of themselves doesn’t exist. What they’re missing is a way in — and a space where nothing has to be edited first. What we do together: I work with individual adults and couples through an interactive virtual space — a safe environment where you won’t be judged or criticised, and where we move at a pace that’s actually yours. Together we create something that finally feels like it fits. If that’s what you’ve been waiting for, I’d love to connect.
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Master of Counselling Psychology Yorkville University (MACP)
Bachelor of Science
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Gottman Method - Couples Therapy
Sex Therapy Practitioner Certification
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Sex and intimacy concerns
Mismatched or low desire
Intimacy blocks — physical or emotional
Disconnection or distance in a relationship
Rebuilding closeness after conflict or broken trust
Relationship wounds that are hard to soften
Shame around desire, identity, or wanting
Feeling stuck, or alone even inside a partnership
Support for individuals and couples, with a neurodivergence-informed approach